Part II baby momma - I never said no and he never called, and I never asked for a dime.

Although I shared my part in a very difficult break up with my babies dad.  I hadn't shared the fact, that I never asked for a dime of child support.  It was four years before we established paternity. 

I never told him he couldn't see his daughter and I never heard from him despite several attempts to keep him in her life. 

Eventually the child support required to register for social services kicked in, despite the fact I was only on aid for 3 months.  The child support began their process and took four years to catch up to us.  My daughters dad got into a serious relationship with one of the girls he was cheating on me with.  She had her little girl 11 months after my daughter was born. 

The last time he spent time with my daughter as an infant she was three months old.  He was holding her hostage until I would sleep with him.  Literally, "you cannot take the baby until..."

He was in a committed relationship and after managing to get out of the house with the baby, I was informed about the pregnancy and her dads intent to not have contact with him. 

He said, "he couldn't deal with seeing me knowing he couldn't have me and it was going to be okay with his new girlfriend.  He hoped she'd have a little girl so it could help to let go of our daughter.  I really was floored and shocked by his statement.  I am sad to say, it worked out for him and his family.  My daughters sister was born 6 months later.