Baby's Momma-A confession from a former controlling partner

Jealousy is unattractive and may turn a faithful partner into a cheater

Speaking from experience; a former controlling partner.

Early in my life, I was the type of woman who wasn't going to be cheated on.  I was on my partners every move and made him totally miserable.

He was an easy going kind of person and he truly loved me, in fact he still does to this very day.   Looking back, sure he took the easy way out.  Although, I pushed him to another woman.

Some may argue that I'm letting him off too easily.  He was put through the ringer and if you know me, having a conversation with me on defense is like dealing with a high power attorney against you.

I made a very easy going man, who worked hard to give me anything I wanted into a man who was afraid to walk in the door.  I sat home all day, letting the lesson's I was taught by my aunts who were the hardest women to love.

His family was very traditional, he was the youngest of fourteen and his parents never separated.  Strong Catholic family with old fashioned ideals about a woman and their youngest child.  It was bad enough, I was pregnant and refused to marry him.  I wasn't going to marry a man who I felt was cheating.

We lasted five months, I moved out and his parents sent him far away to live with his oldest brother.  A condition, for him, was he was to have no contact with me until I had the baby and they could be certain he was the father.   I never forgave him, he didn't get off easy.  But, I am woman enough to accept and share my part in the situation.  

Our relationship ended, sure its kind of comforting knowing he still loves me unconditionally.  But, our only daughter was the one who lost out by her mom, not knowing better.